EID MUBARAK

1 oct 2008 (1 syawal 1429H)-Syawal comes once again.Leaving behind Ramadan..with the hope that we will meet Ramadan again next year, insyallah. For me..this Syawal will not be the same as we are not going to visit opah's house in Parit yet her grave. And as expected, this Syawal..not many of mak's relatives visited opah's house. They rather go directly to opah's grave. For me, Syawal is the time to seek forgiveness from each others, not only having big feast after a month of fasting but more to have a social bonding and building good relationship.

After 3 years of marriage i could see some different in the way of my family celebrating Eid, and abg's family celebrating it. Perhaps it is due to abg's big family if compared to mine. But I dont agree with that point to some extent. As recenlty we discussed in Life Span class, attachment (especially during early years) is the MOST IMPORTANT element in having a good parents-children relationship. I could say abang's family comprises of persons who are Teflon (no hurt feeling ek abang..you know I am very assertive person). what is Teflon? As many book stated..it is emotionally unavailable. Do not want to discuss any further..just share some pictures taken during recent Eid.

Abg (in white shirt) helping mak preparing the lemang (this we don't have in Kuala Kangsar)
I wonder abg, why without you the lemang cannot be prepared ek?

The ketupat..some of us handling the rendang. The eid preparation was like preparing for a wedding feast

we ended our preparation (cooking and other house chores) in the middle of the night. So, no takbir raya maaa. I had my takbir raya only with abang. Kak Ina had hers with her hubby la...seem we had it according to our free time as we had to take turn to look after the rendang and lemang.

Automatically my mind strike saying that If i were in Kuala Kangsar.. the takbir will be more merrier as we would gather together with ude's big family..praying congregational solat isyak and early in the morning we would have congregational subuh followed by takbir. One extra significant of Kuala Kangsar hari raya that we have the big meriam besi starting from 12am until solat sunat eid. we hardly sleep that night but it gives us some special feeling that could not be said by words. Yet, in Kuala Kangsar, no preparation done like in Manjung. I could recall vividly when mak only knew how to cook delicious rendang after i married with abang. Mak always said "Alamak...mak ni dah ada menantu baru le nak menjengah ke dapur"..Its ok mak..since abah always said "wat pe penat2 masak2 kita nak makan berdua je"

And mak's tradition passed over to me..i only know how to cook simple things after i got married. Being the eldest daughter in law for my parents in laws, i have to learn many things...before this in my own house...i rarely spend my time in the kitchen..but at abg's house you can always find me in the kitchen..not cooking, doing others house chores..Malu maaa...adik2 ipar sume pandai wat kije umah dan memasak. Thus I take it as experiential learning for me

People always say; "ikat suami dengan masakan..maybe it does not suit for me..my hubby i ikat dengan....rahsia...nak tau kene menuntut dulu

Back to our eid preparatuion, early morning we would rush to prepare ourselves to the mosque but in Manjung they would rush only to get their lemang and ketupat and rendang. No eagerness to the mosque. How do i really missed my younger time (before married) so that i have the chance to go to the mosque. But i know for me, the aula is to take care of my family, hubby and Nabihah rather than performing sunat eid in the mosque

As for me..there is no such a big deal to celebrate the first eid either in my house or abg's house. Like this year, it is abg's turn. The only thing makes it diferent is where to have the solat eid. For example, this year is abg's turn, so we have the solat eid at Manjung. Afetr zhur we went back to Kuala Kangsar. on the way, we surely stopped at opah's house in PArit. It was the same last year. It was my turn, thus solat eid was in Kuala Kangsar..after zuhur we went back to Manjung... HAPPY HARI RAYA every body. Kullu 'amin wa antum bikhair...

1 syawal 1429H-Manjung, this year theme-dazzling blue

abang's big family..not all in the pictures as it is hard to have every body in one shot.

Abang, me, Nabihah.
Seated from left, my mum in law, dad in law and tok wan.

on the way back to K Kangsar, at arwah opah's house with Acu's family and Ne's family. Coincidently their themes were also BLUE..No MoU before ek

Syawal 1429H-Family picture-Kuala Kangsar-Nabihah rebelled not to wear her sweet tudung

Last but not least...enjoy this movie on our syawal prepared by my creative only brother, Lid